How to use your Emotional Authority correctly? What does it mean to have a wave? And most importantly, how not to get swayed by the overwhelming emotions?
This article is the first from the series on Authorities. It is written in three parts. Part one covers the information about the emotional wave and how to start observing your emotions. Part 2 explains more in How to increase the awareness of your emotions.
In the previous article we covered the subject of Strategy and Authority in depth. This article builds on the concepts introduced in the past ones and should be read in that sequence for the best understanding.
What is Authority?
It is what rules over your entire energy being. It literally authorizes the correct use of the whole energetic system of your body. The Authority is like a boss, what it says has to be done. If you overrule it, you will get yourself into trouble!
The Authority is never the mind. That is why logical thinking or making lists of pros and cons will leave you forever running in a loop and wondering: Was this really the right choice?
We live in the world where people give advice to think it over, make up your mind, be logical. The mind is smart and can always make an argument for and against something. That is why it is a bad idea to use it in important decisions that are very personal and specific only to you. However sad it may sound, the mind really doesn't account for your well being. It is an amazing and brilliant instrument in analyzing and trying different solutions. If one idea doesn't work out, it will tell you to try something else. The cost of this? You can end up exhausted, physically and emotionally burnt out and feeling a lack of purpose in your life.
If not through the mind, how else can you make a decision? Only deep in your body lies a knowledge of what is right and aligned for you. Human Design gives you a specific tool to always make the right decisions and stop the ever wondering game of the mind! Your Authority is what you can always trust on to make decisions in your life. If you get informed, invited or respond to a proposition, new job or a new relationship- it is a great opportunity to use your strategy and authority correctly. This way you will always be aligned with the energy that is the best for you!
There are many Authorities in Human Design. Emotional Authority is the most common because approximately 50% of population have it. If you think of your Strategy as your instructions on how to use your energy, the Authority is the "key" or a "tool" to unlocking and utilizing the energy. They go hand in hand together and are the first step to change your life. Using your Strategy and Authority aligns your energy to it's optimal functioning, bringing the right circumstances to you and attracting the right people into your aura. Start experimenting today and see how your life changes!
Emotional Authority
Wait for the emotional clarity
No truth in the Now
Clarity is usually only 60%
"Do you have a patience to wait until your mud settles, and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving until the right action arises by itself? " Lao Tzu
The masters of the past like Lao Tzu, already knew the importance of mastering the awareness of emotions to be able to make the right decisions. The above quote is literally a description of using an Emotional Authority correctly. Waiting for your mud to settle will allow you to see things more clearly.
If you have an Emotional Authority, you should never make important decisions in the moment! "No truth in the Now" means that even if everything in you screams "Yes!" or "No!" you should still wait and observe these emotions before making a decision. This process is called "observing the wave".
Do you remember how the wave works from the Part One of the article? Surely everyone experienced the emotions of the wave, regardless if their Solar Plexus is defined or not. Now how does this affect the decision making? Both the bottom and the top of the wave are confusing! When you experienced them, you should not be trusting that your decision will be right for you.
Here is why:
Top of the wave- Enjoyable Emotions
on the top of the wave we feel joy, happiness and excitement- the sense of rush goes through our body
this often distorts reality making us feel invincible, on top of the world
it may feel like anything is possible, the world is such a beautiful, perfect place
we forget about challenges and the duality of the world
we rush into the proposition/ relationship/ new job only to burn out quickly
once the emotions fade, we feel discouraged, disappointed, bitter, frustrated or angry
If you feel like you are on top of the world, enjoy the wave but don't make the decisions yet. Observe what the enjoyable emotions are teaching you. What are some beautiful, amazing things about your proposition/ relationship or a job? How do these prospects make you feel?
Bottom of the wave- Challenging Emotions
on the bottom of the wave we feel sadness, anger, loneliness, disappointment, discouragement, fear
this often distorts reality making us feel small, incapable, neglected or powerless
it may feel like everything is too hard to deal with and the world is a scary, ugly place
if we decline the proposition/ relationship/ a job offer at this point it will be from the place of fear
once the emotions fade, we may regret a missed opportunity or see things in a different way but it can be too late
If you feel overwhelmed by the challenging emotions and have an urge to escape them, try to stay present and observe them instead. Know that you don't need to make a decision right now, in fact, you really shouldn't! Your perspective may change or stay the same. For now, all you need to do is learn from the challenging emotions. What is the fear and sadness showing you about your decision? Are you afraid of failure or setbacks? What is the worst that can happen?
Important note: there is no rule as to how long this process will take. For some decisions it can take hours or days, for others even months or years! New circumstances may arise and put you on the wave again. It's all a part of the process. Take comfort in knowing that the clarity will eventually come.
Middle of the Wave - Calm Emotions
After going through ups and downs you will experience calmness and a sense of inner knowing what to do.
it may feel like you're only 60% sure, that's normal
your answer will be a calm: yes. Or a calm: no.
it is important to not question it by thinking about it or reasoning and using logic even if the decision seems "unreasonable"
just because you know the answer, doesn't mean you need to rush into doing anything
you still need to use your strategy: wait for the invitation, respond or inform
When you make a decision the correct way you can be sure that it will benefit your life in the most meaningful way. It does not mean that it will be easy and you will have no doubts or fears. They are normal parts of human existence. When you meet setbacks or challenging obstacles you may feel like reverting to the mind game. Instead, observe the wave again and if needed, change your decision based on the clarity. The decision may very well change if the circumstance changes! For instance, the invitation may be revoked, there is nothing your energy wants to respond to or you don't want to initiate anymore.
Emotional Authority Specific to your Type
Emotional Manifestors
your strategy is to inform
when you feel the need to initiate, observe your wave and wait for the clarity
when you know what you want to initiate, inform the people affected by your decision
if you're not sure who to inform, write a list of who you think will be affected
you do not need to inform about every single detail of your plan
you do not need an approval but children/minors need to ask for permission
Emotional Generators
your strategy is to respond
when you feel the need to respond, observe the wave and wait for clarity
when you know what you want to respond to, wait for the energy to be available again; no need to rush into anything just because you know your answer
don't worry, if it was a right thing for you, you will get another "need" arising and you will be able to respond
playing "hard to get" will make the people even more interested in getting your sacral energy engaged
Emotional Projectors
your strategy is to wait for the invitation
when you get invited, observe the wave and wait for clarity
when you know if you want to accept the invitation, wait for another invitation- it can be a subtle energy shift like an email, an ad or an official invitation
don't worry, if they really want you they will keep inviting you so no need to rush; study and perfect your system in the meantime- you attract the most attention when you focus on your mastery- it draws others to you like a magnet!
*The Reflectors are the only type who do not have an Emotional Authority as all of their centers are undefined.*
Emotional Authority may seem quite complex and difficult to master. Our hope is to explain it in a way that anyone can start using it. Don't get discouraged if the information is too overwhelming. Go back to the previous articles and read one per week. Allow the new knowledge to settle before moving into more information. Reading all three in one sitting would certainly be too much knowledge! It can really take few weeks or months to comprehend it, because you have to really live it to fully grasp it.
Now that you have the information, the rest is up to you! Live your life and observe the wave, experiment with your Strategy and Authority. This is the most difficult part, but also, the most rewarding in the end. If you feel like you forgot how to do it, revisit the articles. If you'd like my guidance, please contact me.
From Izabela
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