Have you ever wondered how the defined solar plexus affects your relationship with others, especially with your children? This article covers a subject on interaction between a parent and a child in relation to the Solar Plexus in Human Design.
In my childhood I have experienced how the defined solar plexus of my siblings influenced me as a child. I remember being petrified of my dad's anger which caused me to be a quiet and withdrawn child.
As an adult I can also observe now how my husband's defined emotions influence our undefined son. On the other hand, I know from personal experience how it feels to be an undefined mom of a defined child and how difficult it can be to allow them to feel their emotions!
If your child has an undefined or open Solar Plexus but yours is defined:
they may seem very emotional
they may be sensing the emotional energy from others
they may feel your emotions before you even realize them but they may also distort them and make it more then it really is
teach them to not attach to the emotions of others and not take them personally
reassure them that your feelings are not "caused" by them
often label and talk about your own emotions without judgment
children can be scared of causing emotional reaction if not taught objectivity
teach them to use the openness as their wisdom: to ask questions and guide defined people towards awareness
If your child has a defined Solar Plexus but yours is undefined or open:
child may experience intense emotions but not have the words to describe them
you may feel your child's challenging emotions as if they're your fault and you failed them as a parent
you may feel the intense need to comfort them and rush them to stop the wave
remember- they need to feel the wave in order to learn from it
give them space to feel their feelings- if it's too much for you, leave the room but tell them it's not their fault
detach from the energy you're feeling from the child- it is not yours
use your awareness as a wisdom- ask them questions to help them be aware of their own emotions
it may be tempting to overcompensate by showering the child with gifts just to make them feel on the top of the wave
You are doing the best you can!
"Children learn more from what you are then what you teach. "-W.E.B. DuBois
Remember, you are learning and evolving every time you consciously bring awareness to your emotions. Be patient and kind to yourself. By being kind and patient with yourself you are actually modeling this behaviour to your children, so they too can allow themselves experience mistakes and set backs.
Visit a specialized therapist who works with subconscious mind or a Human Design Consultant
If you feel your emotions are too overwhelming or you don't know where to start, don't hesitate to reach out for help! At Harmony Wellness you will find tremendous resources and multiple practitioners who can direct you in your journey. Questions? Message us, we'll be happy to answer! Follow us at Instagram @tangibletransformations and Facebook Page.
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